Kate and Doug (MI Without Borders!) outline the four types of Acknowledgement and then coaches Charlie & Jackie (MI Without Borders!) as they acknowledge each other.
Video Reminders:
Four Types of Acknowledgements
- Immersive Acknowledgement – as in the Declaration process
- In the Moment Acknowledgement – I love it when you do that!
- Three Part Acknowledgement – most formal, structured form.
- Acknowledgement of Couple – Become aware of your couple as the third entity in your couple.
Three Part Acknowledgements
- Specific action or event – What they did.
- Quality the action demonstrates in them.
- Impact – What it provides you.
Acknowledgement of Couple
- Say what your relationship provides you.
- Say the quality of the relationship that provides that to you.
Common Pitfalls of Acknowledgement
- Laundry List -> Slow down, do a single 3-part acknowledgement.
- Drive-by -> Stop and make sure the acknowledgement was received.
- Deflection -> Notice if your partner is deflecting and ask if anything is in the way of fully receiving the acknowledgement.
- Passive Receiving -> If you aren’t getting the acknowledgement you hoped for, make a request,
This was excellent. Thank you for all these reminders and the way it was organized was helpful. We saw some new ways to approach our Acknowledgement habits.