Kate Husband and Doug Ferguson, Michigan Without Borders Circle

What would a marriage look like after 30 years of Couples Coaching Couples? Kate Husband and Doug Ferguson have a pretty good idea.

Kate and Doug joined CCC just before they got married in 1993 and have been participating ever since. They both say that with so many years of coaching and reflecting, there is not a single area of life that hasn’t been impacted by CCC.

In practical terms, that looks like friends who are also participating in CCC, many years of leadership in the organization, and an abundance of tools and distinctions that they use every day. They keep romance alive by making every trip a honeymoon and finding romance whenever they are together. Learning the skills to navigate conflict and bring fulfillment to their Couple are other benefits they have received.

At the moment, Kate is living in Michigan while Doug works in Mexico City. Knowing that their Love Languages are physical touch (Doug) and receiving gifts (Kate), they have have to be extra intentional about staying connected while apart. They participate in weekly coaching sessions and make the most of the time that they are together.

Their advice to us all is this: “CCC is one of those things in life that takes the effort you put into it and multiplies it in return. If you feel like you don’t have an hour for your coaching call, do it anyway, because what you create on that call will give you more time. The more you volunteer for the organization, by being on a committee, being a mentor, being a source couple, serving on the board, etc., the more you will get out of CCC for your couple and the more fulfillment you will create in your life.”

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Abi & Genea Cunningham, Rocky Mountain Circle

College roommates Abi and Genea Cunningham met at the University of Utah and have been together since 1997. For years they lived side-by-side, each doing their own thing while trying to be supportive of each other. They say that before CCC, they bickered a lot and struggled to feel connected.

Things have come full circle in their relationship in the last three years since joining CCC. They recently both decided to go back to college, but now they feel fully supportive of one another. They talk on the phone constantly like they did in the beginning of their relationship, and text each other Pokemon (Genea) and KPop band pictures (Abi). While those interests are individual, they are each invested in the other’s passions. Enthusiasm for the other’s interests is a natural expression of 100%+100%=100% couple.

“We didn’t think that CCC would have as much impact on our marriage as it has,” Abi said. They have met new couples and connected with old friends who share their values, and now look forward to seeing them each week on coaching calls.

The simplest way that they keep romance at the forefront of their relationship is to leave their dog overnight with Abi’s mother so that they get uninterrupted time alone. Quality time is important to them both, as is acknowledgement and participation in each other’s passions. They support one another with school deadlines and assignments, bringing true partnership to this Couple.