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Lily was a 42 year old who had just entered her second marriage when she discovered CCC.  She and her new husband, Bob, already had a better relationship than existed in their first marriages, and were aware that they didn’t want to make the same mistakes they made in their first marriages.  They wanted a great relationship that would stand the test of time, but were not quite sure how to get there.  They both had children from previous marriages so there were blended families to consider.  Both seasoned professionals, there were dual careers to consider.  Without significant problems in their relationship they had no need for counselors, but they were aware that something was needed to help keep them from eventually repeating their patterns from the past.

For Lily and Bob, CCC offered a fresh, proactive approach to what they wanted to accomplish in their relationship.  Rather than sitting in a “counselors” office for an hour, they saw an opportunity to take responsibility for their relationship and move it to new heights.  They were equally excited about the opportunity to be a resource for other couples that had similar goals and aspirations in their relationship. 

We should begin looking at the process Bob & Lily participated in by laying out the structure.  It began with a quarterly meeting with other couples near their home in a suburb of Atlanta.  During this meeting they met another couple that would be their coaching partners for the next few months. 
 
Their coaching partners guided them through a process to arrive at what Bob & Lily wanted to take on that quarter. They began with reminders of who they are for each other.  Beginning with, “For me, you are....” and, “Who I am for you is...” setting a tone of mutual appreciation.  “I am your biggest fan; your sounding-board for ideas about your work; your partner in raising these children.”  And “You inspire me to be more patient and loving with our family;  you are my confidant and counselor.”

Another part of that process is for each to acknowledge the other for everything that is important to them. “I so appreciate how much effort you put into making sure that we all get healthy, delicious meals; that you tell me the things I am doing to please you; that you brought me that little gift for no reason.”  And “I want you to know how much I love it when you take my hand when we walk; that you tell our children what a good parent I am; the way you will sit with me at the breakfast table and take five minutes like I’m the only person in the world, even though there is all the hubbub of getting ready for school and work.”  They each get to say what else they want to be acknowledged for.

From this point they were guided by their coaches to come up with a motto or declaration for the quarter.  This would be a brief expression that is fun and energizing, and that in some way expresses what they wanted to address during the coming weeks.  During the process they noticed that a lot of what they appreciated and enjoyed about the other had to do with the time they spend together, but that they had lost it both in the daily comings and goings, and in having specific "date" time together.  Their declaration,  “We love our time together!” would be used to remind them to enjoy all of their time together through the upcoming quarter and to make sure that they took time just for themselves.

The next step in the process is the weekly phone call with the other couple to check in.  Lasting just 30 minutes to an hour, this weekly call gives Lily and Bob a few minutes each week where their relationship is the most important thing, the only topic, and where they are mindful of the things they wanted to focus their attention on.  Also on the calls, the little upsets that are invariably part of all relationships can be addressed in a way that allow Bob and Lily to interrupt similar upsets in the future.  Half of the call is about Bob and Lily.  Half of the call is about their coaching couple.

What comes next?  After about 3 months the next quarterly meeting is held, Lily and Bob will meet once again with the other couples and recount their successes and challenges in an environment of caring and support.   These meeting have a celebratory feeling.
 
Interestingly, Bob’s initial concern with entering into a commitment to this process was the concern that, with all their responsibilities to kids and careers, they wouldn’t have time for the quarterly meetings and weekly phone calls.  What he discovered was that as a result of the work they were doing on “couple” that their relationship was running more smoothly, they were spending almost no time arguing, in fact were communicating much better, and that they had more time for each other.

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This is what CCC participants say:

Our communication is better than ever, thanks to our weekly CCC calls. Since we joined CCC a year ago , we have had the best year of our relationship. Our love and compassion for each other has grown so much. We have experienced new areas of communication, a better understanding of each other, and new friendships. We are more willing to do the work that our relationship needs and more willing to learn how we can grow as a couple. Miriam and Tim

When we stumble, there are others to steady us. When we do well, there are others to cheer us on. In CCC, we are part of a larger community committed to our success as a couple! Wayne & Phillippa

We are not “joiners.” But we tried this, and it’s been great for us. We enjoy ourselves more than ever, and have made friends we never expected.

CCC provides a way to celebrate our relationship each week through connection and communication. In a busy world with a mile-long "to do list" each week, it is so nice to take 60 minutes each week to focus on our relationship and support another couple in doing the same. :) Coleen and Craig

After just 3 months participating in Couples Coaching, our arguments went from lasting 7 years to lasting 7 minutes. Now, after two years, it would be hard to call them arguments, at all.

With CCC, we choose the direction of our relationship looking ahead, instead of looking out the rear view mirror at the past and wondering why we are not getting where we want to go.

For us, CCC has been both a support when we've felt like our relationship needed it, and enrichment when we've felt strong. In both cases, CCC has been a nurturing community.

Gordon and I wanted to do everything we could to keep our relationship healthy and alive. Couples Coaching Couples has given us what we needed to improve our communication, appreciate each other and to “stay awake” in our relationship. As an unexpected bonus, we have a community that loves and supports us! Linda and Gordon

It is a safe space for us to relate on a deep level with other couples. It has provided rich relationships and life-long friendships. Bill and Becca

After being married for several years, through this work we are realizing what trust really means in a relationship.

The coaches listen for our success as a couple. They take a stand for our life together being great.

I see our work in CCC providing space, talent and coaching to be more in love with my spouse than ever.
EVER is a big word.

CCC has given us a way to really, really be a couple instead of two people that are married. Ed and Dora

CCC reinforces our commitment to each other by keeping us consciously aware that our relationship is its own entity and how important it is to continue nurturing it. Eric & Verene

We've found that we all have so much in common with other couples, and that we can all greatly benefit from interacting with other couples in this structured setting. Craig & Michelle

CCC was there for us as a community through a very difficult time in our lives. It supported us in ways that taught us to put our couple first and keep a healthy perspective on what is important. Thank you CCC! It ROCKS!

What my husband and I have gotten out of Couples Coaching Couples is a community of people who we adore!

What we have gotten out of Couples Coaching Couples is a solid foundation to our relationship that we rely on when we hit a rough patch. We know that we can get through it with the tools we've learned and the friends we've made.

We joined CCC when our youngest child was a senior in high school. We thought it would be a good way to rediscover our relationship beyond being parents. We have gotten SO much more. It has been surprising, fun and occasionally challenging. Those challenges have been deeply rewarding.

Couples Coaching Couples has made all the difference for us. There have been two times in our 11 year marriage that we can look back and say "That was close. I wanted to quit and I didn't see any hope in the situation." Without CCC one of those situations would be presenting itself again and again and again.

The coaching has us choose our couple ongoingly. And when we choose we are able to move forward with knowledge of our choice and a declaration and coaching that forcefully moves us forward as a couple. Stephen and Louann

It helps us look at life through the eyes of our couple as opposed to as two individuals.

We are happily married after 10 years, 9 of which we have participated in CCC. A friend says our relationship gives him hope for a fulfilling relationship.

After 21 years of marriage, we finally understand what commitment means.

CCC has kept us innovating and growing – even through a 7-year home renovation and two more children – while having fun and being connected. Stephanie & Curtis

We both get more of what we want out of life.

We have loved the friends we made through CCC. We feel comfort in sharing with them what we want to achieve and have fun accomplishing those goals.

Both of us have been divorced before and I don't think that we would still be married now if not for participating in CCC. Our participation helped us work through our conflicts and come out stronger and closer.

CCC gives us rich relationships with other couples.

CCC helped us keep our couple together when we had trouble being together. And CCC helps us be even better in the best of times. Brian & Jacqui

We are a happier couple because of our participation in CCC.

During a coaching call, our coaches literally asked what kept us from being "married". We took the coaching and we were engaged within a month.

CCC is one of the few things we do that is just for us as a couple, not as individuals. Our whole family benefits, and at the heart it is our relationship that has a chance to be nurtured and shine.

CCC helps us maintain open lines of communication, particularly in difficult times, and prevents little issues from becoming big issues.
CCC also helped us transition to parenthood while still maintaining a healthy balance between our role as parents and our relationship as husband and wife.

We strongly believe that CCC enables us to teach our daughter what a healthy relationship looks like.

The CCC community has given my husband and me support during our most difficult times.

We’ve participated in CCC for 15 years and we are lifetime members. Our couple and family would be entirely different if it wasn’t for CCC.

We experience community as a couple, and this gives us continual support to create our life together.

Our grade school children love CCC. Partly because the gatherings are fun. But mostly they say they like seeing how we treat each other.

We have been in CCC since its beginning, which means since the beginning of our marriage. CCC reminds us of what is special about our realationship and the moment we are in right now. It also lets us participate in the joy and creativity of other couples. It gives us our only community that is committed to the idea that being a couple can not only work, but can be an extraordinary experience.

Weekly we recommit to being a couple, to have a beginner’s mind, to feel excitement and newness in our relationship. This has brought adventure, and a deepened relationship. Married 44 years.

It is great being emotionally intimate with a community: more intimate than with our families.

We are very independent and CCC helps us think together about whether something is good for our relationship. Married 30 years.

We communicate at a higher level than before. Our participation helps us be better parents. Married 25 yrs.

We were both afraid that Couple would take something away from us as individuals. CCC calls us to be bigger than we would otherwise. Participation provides learning we can’t get anywhere else in life. Having committed listeners available, the “safe place” of the coaching calls forth our best selves. CCC reminds us of our commitment to be for each other.

CCC offers a pragmatic side too: achieving concrete results in life. It’s a time we use to design what our lives will look like.

We’re all challenged to make time for CCC, but it’s really about making time for what is important to us.

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